Monday, 24 December 2012


Christmas day has arrived. I currently sit at my computer writing this. It's 7.45 and I've been up for 3 hours, fed the horses, washed the dishes, had my breakfast and the rest, apart from a brief visit from my lady are all still fast asleep.
This is good though as it gives me time to reflect on the year and what lies ahead. It has been a year of moving forward and challenging myself. I have made some massive leaps forward in my life in the last few years and am preparing to leap forward again as I am starting to feel too comfortable and that is a sign of complacency and that my growth has slowed. Time to push the boundaries of my comfort zone again and see where it takes me.
It has been wonderful to experience once again enjoying my life and feeling all the emotions that were once lost to me. My relationship with myself and my lady gets stronger due to trying to make us a priority. My attitude seems to be better this last year and that has made me feel lighter. In fact the year has been chock full and I wonder where it has all gone, but at least I have been given another day to keep trying for more of the good stuff in life and for that I am very grateful.
I am still working on my workbook for The 7 Big Questions, unfortunately though I realise that summarising 40 odd years of experience, lessons and tools that I've come across into one volume is a massive undertaking and may take me longer than expected to complete. Having said that, once I finish, it should help many people gain control of their lives. Looking forward to that.
My journey continues as does yours and I leave you with these Christmas wishes.
May the gifts you receive this Christmas feed your heart and soul and may you be surrounded by the people who really care about you and that you care for. May you gain wisdom from the year you have just lived so that you may apply it to the coming year and improve the quality of your life and the people closest to you. May your health remain good so you may create a legacy to show the world that you were here and here for a very good reason. May you encounter love wherever you turn and may you give it out at every opportunity. May all your hopes, dreams and desires be realised. May you have the longevity, health, ability and desire to achieve all that you were put here to achieve and may you truly become the amazing human being you are capable of becoming.
Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to you and your family from me and my family.
Wayne Brown is a facilitator and promoter for life change. Contact him at
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Friday, 21 December 2012


We are now almost at Christmas and another year has left us and we are faced with a New Year. We will have resolutions that we vow to keep, promises made to others and ourselves. We know we want better for us, our loved ones and our friends. We know that it starts with us making a commitment to changing our habits first off, but where to from there? What is it that stops us getting started?
Any journey to betterment requires a plan and first we need something to kick us out of our reverie, our why if you will. What is yours?
Then we need a framework with which to build our plan, then information to fill in all the gaps then something to inspire and sustain us when the going gets tough.
Today I remembered a snippet of a speech given by Nelson Mandela that was a quote from a book by Marianne Williamson. It was given at his inauguration speech as the President of South Africa. It goes something like this;
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others
As I walked along today replaying parts of this in my mind I realised that what truly stops us getting started is that we feel we don't deserve to have all the good things in life. For some reason we feel that we are unworthy but this is not true. We ALL have the same right to joy, love, contentment, wealth, happiness, satisfaction, accomplishment, health, and all the other good things that life offers.
I am here today to grant you permission to reach for, strive to achieve and attain all the bounty that life offers. By the power invested in me by The All Powerful Is that you have the right to pursue all that makes your heart feel fulfilled, to have all that you desire, to be all that you can be, to grow into the magnificent, inspiring, wonderful, loving human being that you are.
There, you now have permission. You can now figure out your why, then get your inspiration, build your framework, collect your information and create a truly magical life. All it takes now is for you to choose to accept that permission for you to be all that you can be, then pursue it with all you've got.
To get you started, send for my free e-book that outlines The 7 Big Questions to create your framework then start filling in the information and you'll be on your way to having a magical life. I'll be waiting for you to join me on the journey.
In the meantime have a wonderful Christmas and New Year. May it be more awesome than the year we just had.
Wayne Brown is a facilitator and promoter for life change. Contact him at
or listen to his podcasts at

Sunday, 9 December 2012


Every now and then I stop and think. Yes, I know, don't be shocked, I do do it occasionally. Only a few years ago I was ending a very tumultuous, toxic relationship, one that wasn't healthy or enjoyable for either one of us. I was working in a trade I didn't receive a lot of joy from with an employer who was more frustrating than anything, I had virtually no savings or investments to show for 25 years of working. I had very little if any social circle, I had a lot of stress and tension and the main emotions I could feel were frustration and anger. My hopes and dreams for the future were looking very unlikely indeed. Not a very healthy formulae for living.
Then one day, I had decided I had had enough. I ended the relationship, moved out of the house, and finally I had some peace and quiet to sort out what the hell I had done to my life and consider my options. I sat down and did a 'retrospective introspective'. This is where I look back on my life and really ask myself some hard questions. It took me about 18 months to devise some ideas and plans that were to develop into The 7 Big Questions, and another 12 months to implement them. Within 6 months my life had taken some amazing turns for the better.
Once I had clarity about who I was and what I wanted from my life, I could then plan and design a life that I truly wanted. I suddenly felt so much more freedom and lightness knowing that I finally had control of my life. I went from a small rental house in suburbia with little savings or social life to within a year, living on acreage, running a successful business with a gorgeous lady that I had met, changing to an employer that was more in alignment with where I was going in my life plan, saving more money than I had ever had, a social circle that supported and encouraged me, an online business that is now listened to around the world in a heap of countries and my future looking brighter than I could ever of hoped.
This is the question I have for you and is the title of this blog. Have you ever had a day where you wake up and in the middle of your day, you look around at your life and marvel at how different it is over such a small period of time? Do you ever think 'I am amazed that I could create all this?' It is truly fantastic.
All I did was apply The 7 Big Questions. Nothing more ground breaking than that. If you would like a free 37 page e-book that tells you a little about my journey, The 7 Big Questions and what they can do for you, send an e-mail to
I'm also writing an e-workbook that should be finished within the next few months. It will contain everything I used to turn my life around as well as many other things as well as a plan to help you implement it and get the most out of it. If you are interested in that when I am finished, send an e-mail and I'll put you on the waiting list. I am also going to create some audio books and webinars as well down the track. I'll keep you posted on them.
There is only one thing for you to do now. Decide if your life is all that it can be and if you could get more out of it? If it could be more and you would like more, make the decision to do something about it, because only you can. I look forward to joining you on your journey.
Wayne Brown is a facilitator and promoter for life change. Contact him at
or listen to his podcasts at

Wednesday, 14 November 2012


I was talking to a friend today who is also a listener to my podcast and we were discussing what I was hoping to achieve with my podcasts etc. My goal is to help people avoid some of the bigger mistakes in life. Will I be able to help you avoid all mistakes? No. That would be impossible and regardless of how effective I may be at delivering my message, how aware I may make you of information and inspire you to do something about your life, I could never get you to avoid all the problems.
Problems and mistakes are a natural part of life, and through them you learn many things. What I'm hoping to help you avoid are the bigger, more painful and destructive mistakes you could potentially make. Things like picking a partner that doesn't fit into your life plan and isn't a match for you; picking a career that gives you little satisfaction or remuneration; a body that is unhealthy, unfit and inflexible; a financial plan that doesn't protect you or the people you love.
Avoiding some of these disastrous choices for myself and others would be of prime concern to me. I would rather avoid making these again myself and am actively doing what I can to choose better. Through my choosing better, I can help others choose better.
What sort of mistakes would I like you to make and learn from? There are many. As I make you aware of things, you may store them away for when they are a part of your life. As you go along you will encounter situations and make a poor choice, but due to the awareness I have given you, you could then choose better, correct the situation and move in a better direction in a very short period of time.
A perfect example could be that you have finally found a partner who is a good match for you. You have been together for six months and you don't communicate something effectively one day. An argument ensues and you find that you have two choices. You can listen to the part of your brain that wants to argue about how you are right and they are wrong or you can recall something I mentioned about resolving arguments and even though it is awkward and takes some time, you persist until finally you sort it out and get the relationship back on an even keel.
This is what I'm talking about. I can't help you avoid the argument, but I can help you get it back to normal as quick as you are able. That is my goal. Make the mistakes, but correct them before they drag you to your knees. Enjoy the journey, minimise the bumps and maximise the good stuff.
Wayne Brown is a facilitator and promoter for life change. Contact him at
or listen to his podcasts at

Thursday, 8 November 2012


Two days ago, I was interviewed by the man who was responsible for my dream finally getting underway.
For ten years I have had this dream simmering in me. Five years ago it started to burned and I decided to write a book and put down all my thoughts, experiences, lessons and wisdom that I had managed to create, collect and try to implement in my life. It was going to be more of a rambling of my life really. Then I decided to get serious and made moves to take control of my life. I ended my second marriage, moved out of the house into my own accommodation and started to do what I call an ‘introspective retrospective’.
For the next six to eighteen months I asked myself some serious questions, looked at where I had made poor choices, ignorant choices, naive choices, and sometimes downright stupid choices. Once I had this information, I pondered the choices I should have made and realised they fell into 7 categories. From these categories I developed what I now call The 7 Big Questions. Once I had these, I created my answers to them. I then started applying them to my life. Within the year my life had done a 180o turn around. Now it’s better then I could have imagined and getting better.
The big turn around for my dream was back in August 2011. I was with my new lady in Sydney, Australia for a seminar. On the second day, a guy by the name of Sam Crowley comes on stage and starts talking about podcasts. I’d heard about them but didn’t fully understand that the common man could make them. Once Sam started explaining all of this, I leant over to my lady and said, very excitedly, ‘this is it, this is what I’ve been looking for!’ I signed on with Sam to learn how to do it.
For the next nine months I listened to Sam’s webinars and read all I could find on podcasts. I was doing paralysis by analysis. Then when I was listening to the webinars for the fourth time, two phrases of Sam’s jumped out at me. “You miss 100% of the shots you never take” and “Don’t get your podcast perfect, just get it out there”. I suddenly realised I had been scared to put it out there in case it was crappy and I was judged. Silly thought.
Within four days, I had 5 podcasts recorded and on-line. Soon I had people in eight different countries listening to me and with the number growing it’s very exciting, especially when I get feed back.
As part of his package, Sam had agreed to interview me on his podcast, so I have done that now and it was a wonderful 20 minute chat that I enjoyed very much. Check it out on PodOmatic. Just type in Sam Crowley or Every Day Is Saturday and listen in.
It’s amazing how much your life can change when you stop blaming others, make some better decisions and keep moving one foot in front of the other. It’s just moving to the horizon so you can see further each time.
I know I am and it’s very exciting.
I look forward to having you on my journey with me.

Wayne Brown is a facilitator and promoter for life change. Contact him at
or listen to his podcasts at

Saturday, 13 October 2012


10th October 2012
Hi Wayne,
I hope this letter finds you well. I'll start by introducing myself. I am Wayne Brown from the future. I know this will be hard for you to comprehend as it is 1982 where you are, and being only 15 years old there are many things that you believe you know and understand but unfortunately there are many things you have yet to learn about and experience, just as there are still many things for me to learn about and experience.
You currently stand as a young teen on the cusp of approaching adulthood, your life spread before you like a massive network of paths and possibilities. I would like to tell you that you have an easy life in front of you, a life rich with love, enjoyment, achievement, satisfaction and abundance but unfortunately I know the the path that we will take to get to the position where I am now. The path is littered with decisions that we will make based on ignorance, naiveté and sometimes just plain stupidity. We will stumble, and hurt ourselves more than a few times. We will leave broken relationships behind us, missed opportunities, and wasted possibilities. It hasn't all been a waste of time though. We have learnt much and met some great people who have really opened our eyes. Where I am now is a pretty cool place, once again with a future of paths and possibilities.
It has only happened because I opened myself up to you back then, and asked you where we were going to go. You told me and I decided to get control back of our lives and start to live from our heart. It has not been easy and is at times down right scary, but I can feel our confidence growing and the fear start to shrink.
I know that at the moment, you don't feel confident or worthy. I know that there will be dark times and despondence that overwhelms you. There will be wrong decisions, there will be decisions based more on what others supposedly want for you and other decisions that have no real basis other than some story you will buy into.
I can't tell you what to do, or how to avoid some of the mistakes, because I can't. No matter how informed I make you, you are going to stuff up. That is the nature of life, for it is through mistakes that we learn. All I can offer as advice is, to learn about the following things and become conversant, confident and knowledgable. Don't leave things to chance.
Learn about yourself, your dreams, your aspirations, the things that make your heart sing. These are the things that will carry you through the dark times. Learn what you believe about yourself and if it doesn't lift you up or make you desire to be better that you are now, question it, alter it to be what you need and commit it to memory. You only have one life, don't waste it be playing down your magnificence. You have amazing gifts as we all do, and the world would suffer if it never got to see your gifts. Be all you can be and believe it in every cell of your body. Watch your thoughts for they become your feelings, which will become your words, which will become your actions and your actions will become your destiny. Be wary of what you let into your mind.
Learn to be a good partner. Learn how to love well. Learn what good love is and never settle for less. You have an abundance of love to give someone and don't waste it on people who will not reciprocate. Learn to have a brave heart who is willing to risk, but do not be reckless with your heart for it may be able to absorb blows but it will bruise and the bruising takes some time to go away. Keep in touch with your emotions, do not shut them away for they will help you stay connected to yourself and your partner. Lift your partner as much as they lift you and remember that an argument that is about something that is not really important is an argument not worth having. You will quickly learn that an argument that goes for more than 30 minutes is about something far deeper than the subject mentioned and needs something far more effective than an argument. Learn to love well and be loved well. Pick well with your partners and you will have joy, pick poorly and you will have many years of anguish and pain. Years wasted with arguments and anger. Pick well, ask the right questions.
Find a career that gives you joy. Work toward that career, even if you have to fill some time doing something else to build money or skills to do that job. Make sure it is something that makes you want to jump out of bed in the morning for the excitement it creates in you and let no-one sway you from that path. If they try to convince you that you'll fail or aren't capable, find someone who will encourage you until you decide and only you, that you aren't suited to it. Finding joy, satisfaction and fulfilment in your job in paramount to your life. Never settle for less.
Learn how money works. Learn how to budget, save, invest and earn your money. There are some who say that money is not important, but you can make more change in the world with money than you can without. Learn about money. We all deserve wealth, not just on money, but relationships, health, career, friendships, spirituality and so on, but if you are broke, all of these areas suffer. Learn about money. Do not squander your earned dollars for they will enable you to do the good in this world that you want to do. Learn about money. Learn how to make your money earn money for you and not you earn the money. Learn to be comfortable with it, use it wisely and make it grow.
Learn to keep your health. You are currently healthy and will remain that way for most of your years, but do not take it for granted. Do not start smoking. It is a stupid habit and you will not enjoy coughing up crap or being told in your mid 20's that you have the start of emphysema. Keep up mild exercise. You will keep pretty good fitness but maintain suppleness and look after your back. You don't know it at the moment but you will find out you have an extra vertebrae which will cause you to have bad back pain. Look after your back. You want to reach a healthy old age. We will all pay for the choices we make to put our health down on the list. Choose well in regard to your nutrition, health and exercise. Definitely do not take health for granted. If you don't look after your body, where are you going to live?
When you get to having children, sit down and discuss it, ask the right questions, have them for the right reasons. Make sure you're ready because being a parent is a big job, you can't do it half baked. If you get this wrong, then your children will think that is how you do it and they will get it wrong. Be a good partner as well as a good parent as the two complement each other. Learn the rules of parenting and apply them diligently in the early years for the early work will pay off. To get you started, should you choose to become a parent, remember these two rules; One; If it's 'no' today, it's 'no' tomorrow. Do not waver on this one. Regardless of whinging and pleading, stand firm. They will learn that 'no' is 'no' and nothing will change that. It will save you all grief down the track. 'No' is 'no', and 'yes' is 'yes' and never the twain shall change. Two; Find the point where you lose it, draw a line there and long before you are pushed to that point, get them to stop pushing. If you lose your cool, the child has won the battle and you all ultimately lose. Keep control of your emotions with kids. They need to feel safe and you need to feel calm, loving and in control. This will be your hardest job, if you choose this,it can give you the highest of highs and the lowest of lows, but can bring great joy and satisfaction if done well. Learn to be a good parent and raise good children.
Finally, try your best to keep all of these things in your life with a healthy balance. It will test you, keeping that balance, but be diligent, regularly assess where you stand in your journey and how you are progressing. Keep track of the journey so you can see your progress. The journey forward is easier to control if you can see where you've been. All the best things in life are the ones you have to work for. They are worth working for and so are you.
A few thoughts to help ease your journey. Remember that when people cause you pain and anguish, it is not really about you but about them. They have pain and anguish they are trying to ease and unfortunately you are collateral damage. To get really upset, ponder revenge or try to figure out why they did it will only lose you sleep. Try to let that go as one of those things that you'll never figure out, for even asking them will not yield the truth as they aren't even aware what that truth is.
The only thing you can control is you. The only thing you have any real and lasting influence over is you, so work on you. Get control of you, your thoughts, your beliefs, your actions, for controlling these you will have a semblance of control over your life.
Your first love will break your heart in a few years. It will hurt, but you will heal. Friends will leave you to seek their path. You will change jobs seeking to find you and what makes your heart sing. Do not be afraid of change, for life is change, and you adapt well. Never doubt your instinct, it will always speak true to you. You know more than you think you do, believe in yourself.
You can have a relatively smooth journey with minimal bumps and bruising but stay aware, ask regular, well thought out questions to get well thought out answers. Stay true to your heart and remember that you only have the current moment. The past is already gone, the future has yet to arrive and worrying about either will alter nothing. Be gentle with yourself, strive for everything and try to make your corner of the world as good as possible. You cannot fail in all of this. The worst that can happen is you fall short, but if you aim for the stars, you'll at least hit the moon.
I leave you with all this information to ponder. If it gets too much, call out for me and I will be there in your heart to hear you and help you, the same as you are in my heart for me to hear and ask for help. We are destined for greatness and abundance and we should expect and strive for nothing less, for the more we have, the more we can give. Live your life well and I will meet you somewhere on the path. Until I can hold you, know that you are at least loved by us.

Wayne Brown is a facilitator and promoter for life change. Contact him at
or listen to his podcasts at

Monday, 24 September 2012

I was talking on the phone to a friend the other day and we were discussing our relative journeys and what an impact your mental attitude has toward your destination and result. As usual it was a refreshing and enjoyable conversation. While we were talking I was catching him up on my podcast and I had a sudden realisation that I had to share with him and I will now share with you.
Every time you read a book, attend a seminar, or listen to a recording the presenter will say 'I was once where you are, I'm here now, this is how I did it.' It made me realise a few flaws that most of these products have and that is they are always created retrospectively. To explain, if someone has lost a lot of weight, what do they normally do? They write a book. If you need to lose weight, what do you do? You read their book and you'll lose weight doing what they did. Easy, right?
No. The problem is that you will stumble, have challenges, be tempted to fall off the wagon and so on. What you need at this time is a reference that you can turn to, to explain how to overcome these challenges. If the person who has lost the weight had kept a daily diary, that you could read that explained how they overcame the challenge in real-time that would help you more often than not.
Well, I realised that this is what I am doing. I have only started turning my life around three years ago. I still have a way to go, but I am getting it under control and I am keeping a record of my journey in real time. This way you can look back on my journey, where I have recorded my thoughts, feelings, beliefs, challenges, tactics and tools that I've used to keep my momentum.
There are two reasons that I am recording all of my journey in as many formats as possible and that is this.
One; I want you to have a comprehensive record that you can turn to that when you have a challenge that is not just a book, or a CD, but a multi-faceted tool that will give you the greatest chance of success. The more information you have access to and the greater the accessibility, the greater your chance of success.
Two; There is an old tale that has been attributed to Napoleon, Caesar, George Washington and others. I'll use Caesar for this version that goes something like this.
Caesar and his troops had sailed to the enemy shores. The enemy outnumbered them and it was their land. Once the troops were disembarked, Caesar ordered the boats to be burnt. As they stood before the burning ships, Caesar said 'We only have one way way to get home. That is in their boats. If you want to go home, we have to defeat them'. They defeated them and went home in their boats.
I have decided to burn my boats. It has been said that if you make your declaration for success public, you are far more likely to succeed because everyone else is making you accountable. My potential failure is the boat I am burning. The only way I can get home is on the boat of success. Success with my relationship, my career, my money, my health, my mind-set, my children. I want to succeed and I want to guarantee it as much as possible.
Do you fancy burning your boat and maximising your chance of success? Complete the following declaration, copy and paste it into an e-mail and send it to me at and we'll encourage each other to succeed, we'll hold each others feet tot he fire and make each other accountable, we'll make sure we succeed. Take a brave step, you know you can do it, come on!
I (your name) of (your address including country) do hereby declare that I will dedicate myself to succeeding in my life, no matter what it takes. I will answer my 7 Big Questions and create a life that enables me to be all I can be so that I may give all that I am to the world. I deserve the abundance that life offers, and will take my share and maximise the time that I have on this earthly plane. This I do declare on this (day) of (month), (year)
Signed (your name)
I really look forward to receiving your e-mail.
Wayne Brown is a facilitator and promoter for life change. Contact him at
or listen to his podcasts at

Tuesday, 11 September 2012


I'm going to write a quite serious blog today. This doesn't mean that my other blogs are light-hearted and jovial, no it means that the subject matter is serious. I want to talk about a subject that in Australia where I live, each year claims over 2,500 lives and many thousands more around the world. It is a subject that people seem almost reluctant to talk about, which is a shame because it has more than likely touched every one of us. I know that it has personally touched my life. I'm talking about suicide.
The reason I want to talk about it is that on the 13th of September in Australia, it is R U OK? Day. This is where we are encouraged to ask friends, family, work colleagues, if they are okay, and start a dialogue that allows them to talk about how they are feeling and may avert them from making that choice.
It was only two years ago that it last touched my life. I have had it before a few times. A friend of mine who I was pretty close to, who lived in Queensland, decided to take this path. He had come out of a painful relationship, met a lady who made him happy and had recently had a child with her. It all seemed like it was picking up for him. Then, one day he saw her and his son off for the day, and when she returned he had taken his life. No signs, no warnings, no note. It still baffles me why he chose that path and saddens me that he couldn't phone to talk to someone who cared.
Now, it may seem that I'm not understanding where he was when he made that decision. I can tell you that I do. I have been there a number of times. I don't tell people these things, because I am inclined to be a private person, but I feel I need to put a dialogue out there, that let's others know that if they really need someone, there is at least one who understands. When I was a teenager, I was suffering the usual teenage angst. I felt I wasn't loved, I felt I wasn't worth anything, that I would never achieve anything. I distinctly remember sitting at my desk in my bedroom, feeling as if I was in a black pit and picking up a stanley blade, or box cutter if you prefer. I rested it on my wrist and contemplated pulling it across to end my pain and despair. The silly thing is that I had no idea what I was doing and would have probably not succeeded, except to bleed a lot and feel a lot of agony. I don't know what eventually stopped me but I must have sat there for a good ten minutes with the blade on my wrist. After those ten or so minutes were up, I put the blade away. I didn't take my life obviously, but I kept feeling lots of moments of despair, self-doubt and blackness that at times were overwhelming. I even had a few times where I could feel I was on the precipice of depression. It scared me to look over that edge, so I crawled back away from it, thankfully.
When my first marriage ended, it was my wife that left me. She wanted to take my two boys back to the UK, and the courts had given her permission to do that. In the space of a year, I had lost my grandmother to lung cancer, my mother to pancreatic cancer, my marriage had failed, I lost the right to keep my kids in the country, my finances were screwed up, and I was miserable. Again, the thing that we call in Australia, the black dog, was creeping up on me and the pain got worse and worse. I was in a bit of a free-fall and I wondered how I would get out of it. It seemed there was no light at the end of the tunnel and there was one easy way to end all the pain. I toyed with it many times, driving my car, thinking about how to do it through a fatal car crash, handling knives and thinking how best to bleed quickly. There were many ways I contemplated it.
Again, I couldn't bring myself to take that last little step. That state of mind, the despair, the pain, the not wanting to continue with the pain, carried me through another marriage and another 12 years or so. It wasn't always black and horrible, but it was always on the periphery of my mind, like a moth around a light globe, dancing in and out, always letting me know it was there. I don't know how I got through it. Looking back, I still couldn't tell you, but I'm glad I did. It was probably the day I sat down and really examined my life, and developed The 7 Big Questions that I started to get rid of the black dog. It wasn't an easy journey getting away from the black dog, but it's one I'm so glad I took.
Looking back now, I realise that it was stupid and foolish of me to not talk to a friend about it, or even phone a help-line of some sort. It would have made the journey easier, me less of a victim and saved me a lot of time. So what I'm doing for you, is asking 'Are you okay?' Are you struggling? Do you need a shoulder? I'm telling you that you can get through it, it is possible. Not easy, but possible. Reach out to someone, a trusted friend, a help-line, a counsellor, even me. Don't fight this on your own and for heavens sake, don't take that final step. You have wonderful gifts you can bring to the world, and if you take that last step, we may never get to find out what they are and that would be a tragedy. Reach out, know that you're not alone. I ask you again 'Are you okay?'
Wayne Brown is a facilitator and promoter for life change. Contact him at
or listen to his podcasts at


There is a young lady that my lady and I know. We'll call her Maggie. My lady was telling her how I look after her by helping with cooking, cleaning etc and I bring her coffee in bed. Maggie was very envious and wished her boyfriend was more like me. She said that I was a nice guy and that's what nice guys do. I tried to give her an analogy about how I view my relationship. I said that I have eaten in some restaurants that had crappy food and now I have a limited edition dish that I enjoy very much and don't want to eat crappy food again. She didn't quite get it, but my lady enjoyed being called a limited edition dish. Once I thought about it, it is like the following;
Imagine you live in a small town and there is only one restaurant. If you want to go out for dinner, you have to go there. The problem is that every time you go there, the food is horrible, it's either cold, bland, or the wrong order, but it's the only option you have so you put up with it.
Then one day, you go in at a time and day different to when you normally go. The atmosphere is completely different to when you normally go in. As you sit down and read the menu, you notice a dish you've never heard of on the menu. You decide to give it a try. When your meal arrives, the food is cooked wonderfully, it tastes great, it's not too hot and it melts in your mouth. You ask the waiter, why they don't normally serve that dish. He informs you that they do, it is just on certain days and you have to meet certain criteria to be eligible. You then make a decision that you are going to always meet those criteria, and go down there on the certain days, because you want more of that great food.
So it is with relationships. We have to meet certain criteria, and we have to be aware that the dish is even there. I know that I have eaten at delicatessens, roadside diners, bistros and even a few roadside vendors. I have now sampled a restaurant menu, and I know I want more of it and will never settle for anything else ever again. My lady is a lovely dish that really gets my taste buds going. I know that sounds weird but it's true. I'm able to be me, to be loved and loving, to be encourages and supported as well as held accountable. It is truly wonderful. The sad thing is that before I met my lady, I thought relationships had to be like dining at bistros and roadside vendors. They don't! I want to be a diner who deserves to be served a great dish and I look forward to fine dining for many years. You now have to ask yourself 'What restaurant are you eating at?'
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Tuesday, 28 August 2012


On Sunday I completed the City to Surf Fun Run, a 12 kilometre (7.2 mile) run from Perth to City Beach in Western Australia. I had run it a number of times before, the first time being when I was 14. It's meant to go something like this; about 12 weeks out from the Fun Run, I start to train with short runs increasing in distance, tempo, and intensity over the next 12 weeks to condition myself to run. I watch what I eat and coming into the last few days before the actual run, I load up on good carbohydrates to ensure I have a good store of energy when I run. During this time, I also stretch to ensure my muscles have enough elasticity to minimise the chance of injury while I run.
When I was younger, I did little, if any of this, because I was active, flexible, lean and able to recover quickly afterwards. As I aged, in my head I still felt the same and even though I am older I am still in better condition than most, so my actual training was almost non-existent although I watched what I was eating as I already do. In fact most of my training consisted of walking around our property looking after the horses, including the big hill that conquers most people. My excuse was the one most people use. I was really busy and couldn't find time to train.
On race day, I arrived, did a few cursory stretches, did a little jogging and bounced a little to warm up. The race was on. I tried to keep my ego out of it, and keep a steady pace. I spotted an older chap, probably around 60, who looked like he ran regularly, and had a wonderful steady even tempo, so I used him as a pacer. I lost him once, but found him a kilometre later. My lungs were working beautifully, I wasn't puffed. My legs moved smoothly, I took regular sips of water and doused my head to keep cool. The only thing that was offering me problems was my calves. They were struggling. Despite my lack of training, I only walked about 300 metres of the course, and maintained a reasonable pace throughout.
My goal was to beat my time that I had set in 1983 of 59 minutes when I was 15. Considering that I am nearly three times that age now, I came in at around an hour and ten minutes. It was a bit hard to tell exactly, because I accidentally stopped my stop watch mid-race. I struggled a bit toward the end as my calves were really hurting, but I was still running. I was quite proud of myself and am pretty happy with my time.
As I sit here writing this, I have spent the last two days, walking like I am 93 years old with two dodgy hips. It made me realise that I should have trained. Next year I will do exactly that and train properly, because I really want to break my best time. Next year will be the one! It also gave me a bit of an epiphany. In life, like running and any fitness plan, we do little training, little preparation, little forward projection, then wonder why we end up with sore calves, torn tendons, sore feet, and any number of pains. If I had sat down, worked out a plan, scheduled in time to train by prioritising the various areas of my life to ensure that I was ready, the result would have been vastly different, I would more than likely have broken my record by a considerable amount. My life has been much the same. If I had taken the time to plan and prepare, I could have avoided a lot of pain.
Do you have times when you were posed the question, 'To train or not to train? That is the question', and decided not to and then wondered why you ended up with pain. Sometimes we don't even know we have to train. Sometimes we don't even know what the training is. If only we took the time. I certainly wish I had taken some time at least to train. What about you? What do you choose?
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Friday, 17 August 2012

WHAT'S IN YOU?                                                                        Sat 18/08/2012
It's hard to believe that a whole week has passed and I haven't had time to write a blog, record a podcast or anything but it has been a great week full of learning, revelations, interactions with my past and reinforcement of the foundations of The 7 Big Questions.
On top of my full-time job, I have been refreshing my first aid knowledge. Very important. I actually encourage everyone to at least have a very basic knowledge of first aid. A personal experience from many years ago. In my late teens, I had qualified for my bronze medallion in both public swimming pools and at the beach, as I was a volunteer life saver at the time. I was driving when I was 20 with two young ladies in the car, at night. Suddenly one of the ladies had a massive asthma attack and stopped breathing. I quickly pulled the car over, pulled her out of the car, lay her down and commenced mouth-to-mouth. She stopped breathing six times over the next 20 minutes. Each time I had to revive her again. I had sent the other lass to get an ambulance. It was only later that I pondered what would have happened had I not known how to give first aid. It's funny how a choice we make now can impact not just our lives but someone else's years later. There are now a mother and two daughters walking around on this earth because of a choice I made. Yes, she went on to have twin daughters.
I've also been trying to finalise my previous marriage that was ended by me three years ago and it's still not finished. It was a reminder of how important it is to pick wisely the person you choose to formalise a relationship with. With the amount of divorces that take place in the modern world today, it is said to be more than 2 in 3, it's clear that people don't think very much about this. It is such a major decision and the fact that you 'love each other' is not enough in my book. There are so many facets that need to be looked at and explored before that choice is made to get married. I wish I had chosen better but it's always easy to say that after the fact. The challenge is asking yourself before the fact, and that is only possible through awareness.
I've also been preparing myself for The City to Surf Fun Run in a week. I've prepared a little physically, but most has been mental as I know the ego will be tempted to go for it and I'll either burn out quickly or injure myself. I need to conquer my inner environment to ensure that I start slow and build up speed as I warm up and make sure I don't go above a certain level to make sure that I can finish safely and hopefully better the time I set back in 1983. 1983!!! My God, is it that long ago!!!! I was actually on track 5 years ago to beat it but my feet cramped with a kilometre and a half to go. I'll do it a little more intelligently this time. Get the internals right first and the externals will take care of themselves. I'll let you know how I go.
I've also been creating this next chapter of my life with my lady. It's all very exciting as numerous opportunities present themselves. Actually, they're not presenting themselves, I'm noticing them. Looking back on my life, I realise that I've had many opportunities present themselves, I just haven't noticed or didn't take them. The price I pay for not having awareness. I'm so glad I have it now and can show it to others that are interested. Are you interested? Are you going to find out? What are you going to choose now that will affect your life and the life of others years from now? What are you going to choose?
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Monday, 13 August 2012

COMFORT ZONE              
A few years ago, I met a lady that has allowed me to re-discover myself as I had buried my dreams and myself under a lot of garbage. It was a little scary, re-discovering my emotions, my dreams, my wants and needs. As men, we aren't really taught how to handle our emotions, how to decipher them and feel the subtle nuances within each of the basic emotions of anger, fear, shame, happiness and sadness. I know for myself that a few were definitely cut off and I hadn't felt the emotions, let alone the subtle variations for a long time. As I started to become open to them I felt a little uncomfortable and had to really stretch myself to know what they were at first. As I explored them and found out more about them, I became comfortable.
As I was doing all this discovery work internally, my external world was stretching into areas that were uncomfortable. I moved from comfortable suburbia in a 3 bedroom, 1 bathroom house on a little block to renting a 5 bedroom, 3 bathroom house on 50 acres, surrounded by horses with a slightly more than doubling of rent. More financial pressure, more responsibility pressure, and on top of that I changed jobs a couple of times to find something that fitted in with my journey. To say I was a little tense was a bit of an understatement. After a few months I became comfortable with the situation and was a little less tense. Since then, I've been slowly pushing the boundaries outward and getting more and more comfortable. The funny thing is that as you push the boundaries, you realise that you aren't going to die and life goes on, before you know it your life is nothing like it used to be.
This is where most people struggle, they decide to get fitter, lose weight, save money, whatever they choose to change, they make these massive plans and after a few weeks fall flat. The key to change though is that people only change when the pain of change is less than the pain of staying the same. This means for example that they generally have to have a divorce, a major health scare, a redundancy etc before they address the areas of their life that need improvement.There are many things going on behind the scenes that affect this but it all comes down to small steps planned a little way into the future. I'll use losing weight as an example, as most people seem to struggle with this.
If people started with a small incremental change in a number of areas, it would be far less overwhelming and more likely to work. This is based on the idea that any habit becomes permanent after 30 days. If you said, 'for the first week I'm going to eat one less donut, one more apple every second day, I'm going to walk 200 metres every second day and read one chapter of a reputable eating plan each night', then that is a series of small achievable steps. As they become easier, and a habit, add to the different areas until after 6 months, you aren't eating donuts, except occasionally, you're eating more fruit and vegetables, you're walking 5 kilometres per day and reading a book a week on increasing your health and fitness. It should never be massive steps but small steps. A god analogy is if you are driving at night, a great distance, you can only see as far as your headlights reach. That is all you need to do, is see as far as your headlights reach, move into that lit area, then you see further and before you know it, you've driven across the country. It's what I'm doing and seems to be working great. Get your plan, chunk it down, and just regularly apply yourself. Make it a series of small choices and you'll be fine, because after all, it is just small choices. Your choices, so what do you choose?
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Tuesday, 7 August 2012

I was thinking today about the choices that we make every single day and how they affect our lives, and remembered a talk I did at Toastmasters a number of years ago. For those of you that don't know, Toastmasters helps people learn to do public speaking. I delivered a talk that was about Mahatma Gandhi, Martin Luther King Jr and myself. In all of their lives and mine, their lives were turned in a dramatic direction because of a single choice that they had made in a certain circumstance.
For Gandhi, it was when he was thrown from a train in South Africa, because of this event, he stayed for a number of years in South Africa and also a number of years in India to help fight racism and prejudice against Indian people and the control the British Empire had in India. For Martin Luther King Jr, it was standing up for Rosa Parks when she was arrested for not giving up her seat on a bus and moving to the back with the other black people. For me, it was honouring an agreement I had with a friend and going out on Christmas Eve, two and a half years ago and meeting my lady.
All of our lives, every day are filled with choices, what books and magazines we read, the food we eat, the music, conversations and radio we listen to, the television and internet we watch, who we talk to, learn from, interact with. All of these things have effects on our lives and where they are going. They may only be a small effect but compounded over a number of years, that negative friend will drag you down, that regular meal of fast food will give you health challenges, that trashy TV show will dull your senses.
A number of years ago, I started to become more conscious of these choices and how they impacted on my life and more specifically today how they tie in with The 7 Big Questions. I now am very conscious of how I think, who I talk to, what I read, watch and listen to. All of these things impact my life and I want to be in control of what influences me these days.
I remember years ago reading a story on Sherlock Holmes by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle and someone had asked Holmes why he knew nothing about a particular subject.  He retorted 'Why should I clutter my mind with subjects that will only take up space and for which I have no use.'  This is how we have to be, conscious of what we fill our minds and our lives with.
If you want to get a better life, become conscious of your choices. Really think about the effect your world around you has on you. At the end of the day, you are responsible for what influences you and your life. Choice wisely, because only you have the choice. What is your choice?
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Sunday, 5 August 2012

MY HEAD HURTS                                                                                          Monday 06/08/2012
It's a funny thing about my journey, there have been many twists and turns, some of which have taught me lessons, others where I hadn't learnt the lessons and had to repeat the experience until I had. I believe I will never stop learning and don't want to. If I push against my comfort zone so I am a little uncomfortable, get used to that spot, then push again, I have to grow.
This weekend I finished a boot camp teaching about real estate. It has filled my head right up with some very full-on information and it is quite full. There was a lot of information in this three day bootcamp to get my head around and some of it went in and some I am going to have to re-read / watch / listen to, to get it to go in. It was stressful at times, as we had very little spare time and my lady and I got a little stressed and antsy with each other but we got past that like every other time. We are a bit shagged at the moment but we'll get there. This boot-camp like everything in my life, I may have to work hard to drive the lessons home.
I am glad that I am taking myself past my comfort zone as I have had enough of my life the way it was and now want more control and better results and a better quality of life. My life is currently like this on the quality-o-meter;
Birth             First marriage
                           Second marriage                    My life NOW                                                                                 Where I want it
Low                                                                                                                                           High

Of course this journey is going to be challenging, scary, exciting, enlightening and should make me an even better version of who I am now. There is a saying that “People only change when the pain of change is less than the pain of staying the same”. I have had the pain of poor relationships, career, finances, health and I have had enough. There is too much pain there. I have started to change and realise that the pain form the change is not that scary so I'm giving the change a go. Of course, I've had times when I've had the lesson but didn't learn it, or ignored it, but I feel I've finally woken up. Bring on the roller-coaster.   I'll keep you posted on how I'm going. I'm looking forward to what comes.
You also have to decide if you are comfortable pushing your comfort zone and growing. How much pain are you willing to tolerate to create the life you say you want? What do you decide? What is your choice?
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