Where do we get this from

Sun 29/07/2012

I was watching a TV show last night, the American version of The Voice. For those of you unfamiliar with it, it is a show about singing where the people have a history of trying to crack the music industry and haven't quite managed, so this format gives them another chance. It is set up where the judges have their backs to the performers and if they like them based solely off their voice, they pick them by hitting a button and their chairs turn around so they can view their choice and watch the rest of the performance. The show I was watching was like a semi-final where they have a sing-off between two singers, where they do a duet on a song. There were these two lads, both with very good voices and they are filming them doing their training and rehearsals. They film them talking about how their feeling and these two lads, both with very good voices are both saying 'He's a really good singer... I'm going to have to raise my performance... he's better than me...' As I watched this I realised how we all play down our talent, our abilities, our gifts, and I realised how daft that is.

If we have a particular gift, we should be encouraged to share it with the world, especially if it has the potential to make the world a better place. As children we are encouraged to help others, encourage others, strive to emulate others, instead of finding our gift and really making it as big and wonderful as possible.

When I was a quite a few years younger, I used to always joke with a line similar to 'How good am I?' People would then say things that were designed to make me not big-note myself. I used to use it like I had a sense of confidence, but I was lacking in that department. I'm a heap better now.  Anyway, if we don't say it about ourselves, who will. Not many people give out compliments, but many people are willing to tear you down, and that's sad. It's only in the last few years that I've started to realise I have a definite gift that I should share with the world, and that is what I am trying to do, regardless of how much it terrifies me, being out there for others to judge and ridicule, if that's what they choose to do. I feel a lot freer and my confidence is building. As I get further along, I'll make sure my comfort zone is pushed out as I want to see how far I can take this. I encourage you to do the same. We all have a gift, we should find, nurture it, grow it and get it out into the world and be the magnificent, fabulous, talented, but still humble and grateful people we were born to be. Be stupendous, it's your choice.

Wayne Brown is a facilitator for life change. Contact him at

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Sat 28/07/2012

I was reminiscing about the early days with my relationship with my lady today, and I recall how about a year before I met her, I tried doing something I had heard Anthony Robbins talk about. He had said that before he met his partner Paige, he had written down all the elements he wanted in a potential partner, and he read them every day to drive into his subconscious and send out to the universe what he wanted. Then when he had met her he found the list that he had written down, which he hadn't looked at in a while and realised that she was exactly what he had written down. After hearing this I decided to try it. I had nothing to lose. I wrote down the attributes that I find attractive and desirable in a partner and also recorded me reading it out. I then read it regularly and listened to it as I drove my car. I did this for a few months and then stopped. About six months later, I had a friend who was starting a singles support / social group ask if I could be her wingman as she checked out various other clubs. We went to a few private ones, that were dreary affairs, and when she mentioned one on Christmas eve at the casino in Perth, I was hesitant and was about to say no, when a little voice in my head said, 'Remember you agreed that you would be her wingman at this expeditions'. Of course I couldn't argue with that, and went. I went with no expectation of meeting anyone (I wasn't in a good place internally), I was just going to have fun. Of course the rest is history. I met my lady, who has fulfilled just about every one of my criteria. I am so much happier now in my life than before. If you are looking for a partner you could try this for yourself. If you already have a partner, try seeing how they match up with your list. Always bear in mind that you also have to be a partner who deserves someone like your list. If you really want to make it interesting, get your partner to make a list and see how many you match up with. Of course, the key here is not that you are trying to change your partner, but if you can make them aware, and they decide to change that is fantastic. If not, they at least are aware of it. The same applies to you and the attributes that your partner would like.

Send me an email to the7bigquestions@yahoo.com if you like and let me know what you've put down. I'd be interested to know.

Remember, you have the choice.

Wayne

www.the7bigquestions.com

www.the7bigquestions.podomatic.com

LOOKING BACK

The other day I was driving with my lady and we were reminiscing a little about how far we have both come in such a short period of time. We had both previously had relationships that didn’t support us as well as we would like and our partners weren’t a good match for ourselves. We both made a decision to end the relationship and seek out something more suitable to what we would like in life.

When we met each other we were both in a fairly tender state and coming to terms with where we had ended up in life. Not long after meeting I was visiting her and we were hanging out some washing on the line. We were discussing a situation that was taking place and were throwing the information back and forth. The conversation was getting a little heated as we both had different view points on the situation. After a period of about 15 minutes, I realised that even though we had different views we had not attacked each other, we had not played down the others point of view, we had not started yelling. I suddenly realised that I had had my first proper argument and I had actually enjoyed it. I told my lady this and she was very amused by this.

Sometimes I forget how far I have come in such a short period of time and it is good to look back and see how far I’ve come. It gives me encouragement to keep going and gets me juiced up about my life and that is a wonderful place to be.

Remember to look back on your journey and see how far you’ve come. If you haven’t come far enough, try looking at The 7 Big Questions and get reacquainted with your journey.

Also, a quick thanks to the people who have checked out my podcasts on PodOmatic.com. It’s exciting to know there are people in the UK, the US, Germany and the Philipines

Send me an e-mail and let me know how your journey is going. I’d love to hear. Send an e-mail to the7bigquestions@yahoo.com. or look at my website http://www.the7bigquestions.com  Catch you later, and remember that you have the choice.

Have you ever wondered why we generally end up with a life that is not what we want?  It's because we don't plan it.  A study done years ago tracked a group of university students and found that only 5% planned their lives.  After a number of years they checked in with all the students and only the 5% had achieved a life they were happy with.  The 5% even had more wealth, achievements and life satisfaction than the other 95%!!!
The key then is to plan your life.  I myself had made a hash of my life.  Then one day after reaching a pretty crappy place in my life, I sat down, took a long hard look at myself, created The 7 Big Questions, answered them and started creating a life far more in tune with where I want my life to be.  To see what it can do for you, go to www.the7bigquestions.com www.the7bigquestions.com or e-mail me at the7bigquestions@yahoo.com and I'll send you a free e-book showing you my journey and telling you about The 7 Big Questions