WHAT MOVIE ARE YOU WATCHING?

It's a funny thing that we all love going to the movies and we lose ourselves in the drama, the tension, the action, the suspense, the violence, the humour, the plot, the effects, the whole package. We'll happily spend our hard earned money to lose ourselves for a short period of time in the efforts of people who do this for a living.

We know that the action is set up, we know the violence is faked, we know the effects are computer generated or very carefully constructed, we know the scenery is fake, we know the characters are invented but we still buy into it and believe it is real, even if only for a couple of hours.

A perfect example was many years ago, I was at the cinemas watching Rocky III. For those of you that may be too young, it starred Sylvester Stallone as Rocky and Mr T as Clubber Lang. There was this scene where they are boxing and Rocky as per usual was in the corner getting the snot beaten out of him. The tension had been built up as the punches flew back and forth until Rocky was protecting himself as well as he could as the punches rained on him. It wasn't looking good. Suddenly, this woman over to my left, jumps to her feet and screamed out “Get out of there Rocky!” I thought to myself, there is someone who has really bought into it. It's amazing I still remember that so clearly.

See, she was buying into it 100%. Her conviction that Rocky was real and in imminent danger was complete. She had value for money. We have all had that experience, where we buy into it 100%.

Your life is just like a movie. There are scenes played out with backdrops and scenery and set pieces. We have a cast, who are actually writing their own script. We have action, drama, tension, suspense, intrigue, romance, even some violence. We play it out every day on this world stage. We control all of the action, whether we like it, believe it, or even understand it. Unfortunately, some of us don't like our movie.

My question for you is this. What movie are you creating? What value for your money have you created? Who are the cast? What genre of film are you directing? How will each scene end? Are you creating the actual film you want or are you picking an action film when you really want a thriller? Are you creating a suspense film when you really want a romance?

Whether we believe it or not, we are the movie makers of our lives. Every scene is set up by us, cast by us, directed by us, edited by us, scored by us, we do the whole package. We a one (wo)man film making machine.

If you don't like your film, start again. Learn to direct the film you do want, write the script you want, hire the actors and actresses you want, set up the scenery you want. Be the film maker you want to be, take control. You've paid the money (you're living), you may as well see the film you want to see (live the life you want). So, what is your film going to look like now?

Wayne Brown is a facilitator and promoter for life change. Contact him at

the7bigquestions@yahoo.com or www.the7bigquestions.com

or listen to his podcasts at www.the7bigquestions.podomatic.com

WHICH ONE WILL YOU CHOOSE?

Yesterday I was down picking up a few things from in town, and was talking to a lady down there. She thanked me for being patient as I waited for service and the subject of people who complain about service came up. I said 'If the worst thing you've got to complain about is the service you are or aren't getting, you're doing really well.' This lady agreed with me. It's true though.

Life throws us some really tough curve balls, and we can buy into all the rubbish that comes along with it, we can let our emotions control our actions, we can attract more negative stuff by focussing on the 'negative' stuff or we can remember that we still have so much that is going right in our lives.

For instance, from the following list, how many things could you tick the box as being in your life;

☐   I am alive and experiencing life.

☐   My sense of sight, hearing, touch, smell and taste works.

☐   My heart is healthy and functioning.

☐   I live in a great country with freedom of speech and movement.

☐   I have friends and family that care about me.

☐   I am able to move around easily as my body functions properly.

☐   I have creativity, imagination and intelligence.

☐   I am fed, clothed, sheltered and have access to fresh water.

☐   I am suffering no major illnesses or health challenges.

☐   I have opportunities to make my life better if I look for them.

☐   I have access to educational resources.

☐   I have employment and I have disposable income.

☐   I have the ability to change my mind, my thinking and my future.

You get the idea. We have so my things to be grateful for, and we could go on and on listing them. Unfortunately, as humans we are inclined to focus on the negative. The glut of reality shows that vote people off proliferate, so it proves we do that.

The big question is, 'What are you going to focus on?' The negative, which can overpower you, make you feel helpless, drag you to your knees or are you going to focus on the positive and really take off with your new wings and soar higher than you ever have, above the sea of mediocrity to be all you can be and leave the best legacy you can?

As always, the choice is yours, always has been, always will be. Choose well and may we meet on the journey.

Wayne Brown is a facilitator and promoter for life change. Contact him at

the7bigquestions@yahoo.com or www.the7bigquestions.com

or listen to his podcasts at www.the7bigquestions.podomatic.com

THE MOST POWERFUL TOOL YOU'LL EVER USE

A while ago I was re-reading a book series I like to re-read every couple of years. In fact, how I came across it was quite weird. I was on holidays down south with my ex and we had stayed in a B & B, and in the morning I was in the lounge looking at a small library the gent had for clientele to read. We were discussing books we had read and he recommended this book series. It's called 'Conversations with God' and he thought I might find it interesting. I made note of it but didn't give it much thought as I felt it was a religious thing and I'm not religious. On the way home, we stopped off in a country town and were looking in a store when the lady in there said “I've been reading this book series 'Conversations with God' and it's really good”. Anyway, I rolled my eyes upward and silently said “Okay, I'll get it”. I brought the series when we got home and read it. I thoroughly enjoyed it and have gleaned many great bits of wisdom and knowledge from it.

A couple of months ago I re-read it and came across a part that I had forgotten about but this time it jumped out at me and I made a solid note of it and wanted to pass it on here. I believe it is one of the most, if not the most powerful tool you'll ever use. It can majorly change your life. It has already made a massive difference to mine. It is about truth. In the book they describe five levels of truth telling. They are

1. Tell the truth to yourself about yourself
2. Tell the truth to yourself about another
3. Tell the truth about yourself to another
4. Tell the truth about another to that other
5. Tell the truth to everyone about everything

The basic crux is that at level one, you stop using denial and admit to yourself how you really are feeling. I found this is where my life change started. This is the point where I started to take responsibility of my life and control of the direction.

The second level is where I started to get rid of the people that were working against me. I had to admit who was on my side and who wasn't. It was hard to admit that these people probably weren't good for me to hang around.

Level three and four are where I currently am. It is really difficult having to make a stand against people and tell them how I really feel about myself as well as how I feel about them. It is terrifying and scary and also exhilarating as well because I know I'm moving my life forward.

Where do you feel you are? What level are you at? Where would you like to be? What's stopping you?

I heartily encourage you to start using this one tool and see how much it can change your life.

Send me an e-mail and let me know how you're going. Give it a real crack, it's your life we're talking about here, no-one else's. Go for it!

Wayne Brown is a facilitator and promoter for life change. Contact him at

the7bigquestions@yahoo.com or www.the7bigquestions.com

or listen to his podcasts at www.the7bigquestions.podomatic.com

NEW YEAR POTENTIAL

I hope your Christmas and New Year went well. Here we stand on the cusp of a New Year. As we stand together surveying the landscape in front of us, full of possibilities, opportunities and potential, we ask ourselves 'How much of it will I travel over, or will I sit here for quite some time and then wander on just a little bit, like I did last year?'

Every year we have a chance to do it all over again and usually most people don't seize on anything, they keep doing the same thing over and over again. I want to put in here a bit of an e-mail I received some time ago which I believe that if you read regularly would help keep you motivated in your change for a better life.

For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.

People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learned never to underestimate someone's capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people have had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn't work so hard.

This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.

When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.

I know that for myself I have been trying to integrate these rules into my life as well as some that I have developed. It is at times difficult because it moves me out of my comfort zone and away from what others expect of me but I know that the third and fifth theme listed here are becoming more and more present in my life and that is a fantastic feeling, to be able to feel so much happier and freer of the expectations put on me by others.

I encourage you to not only consider these themes in the context of your own life but to look at the impact of The 7 Big Questions on your life as well. It takes time to integrate all of these changes into your life, but it is so worth it. Ask for my free e-book and let me know how you're getting on (I enjoy the dialogues) at the7bigquestions@yahoo.com

Wayne Brown is a facilitator and promoter for life change. Contact him at

the7bigquestions@yahoo.com or www.the7bigquestions.com

or listen to his podcasts at www.the7bigquestions.podomatic.com

MY CHRISTMAS MORNING

Christmas day has arrived. I currently sit at my computer writing this. It's 7.45 and I've been up for 3 hours, fed the horses, washed the dishes, had my breakfast and the rest, apart from a brief visit from my lady are all still fast asleep.

This is good though as it gives me time to reflect on the year and what lies ahead. It has been a year of moving forward and challenging myself. I have made some massive leaps forward in my life in the last few years and am preparing to leap forward again as I am starting to feel too comfortable and that is a sign of complacency and that my growth has slowed. Time to push the boundaries of my comfort zone again and see where it takes me.

It has been wonderful to experience once again enjoying my life and feeling all the emotions that were once lost to me. My relationship with myself and my lady gets stronger due to trying to make us a priority. My attitude seems to be better this last year and that has made me feel lighter. In fact the year has been chock full and I wonder where it has all gone, but at least I have been given another day to keep trying for more of the good stuff in life and for that I am very grateful.

I am still working on my workbook for The 7 Big Questions, unfortunately though I realise that summarising 40 odd years of experience, lessons and tools that I've come across into one volume is a massive undertaking and may take me longer than expected to complete. Having said that, once I finish, it should help many people gain control of their lives. Looking forward to that.

My journey continues as does yours and I leave you with these Christmas wishes.

May the gifts you receive this Christmas feed your heart and soul and may you be surrounded by the people who really care about you and that you care for. May you gain wisdom from the year you have just lived so that you may apply it to the coming year and improve the quality of your life and the people closest to you. May your health remain good so you may create a legacy to show the world that you were here and here for a very good reason. May you encounter love wherever you turn and may you give it out at every opportunity. May all your hopes, dreams and desires be realised. May you have the longevity, health, ability and desire to achieve all that you were put here to achieve and may you truly become the amazing human being you are capable of becoming.

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to you and your family from me and my family.

Wayne Brown is a facilitator and promoter for life change. Contact him at

the7bigquestions@yahoo.com or www.the7bigquestions.com

or listen to his podcasts at www.the7bigquestions.podomatic.com

MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL MY READERS

We are now almost at Christmas and another year has left us and we are faced with a New Year. We will have resolutions that we vow to keep, promises made to others and ourselves. We know we want better for us, our loved ones and our friends. We know that it starts with us making a commitment to changing our habits first off, but where to from there? What is it that stops us getting started?

Any journey to betterment requires a plan and first we need something to kick us out of our reverie, our why if you will. What is yours?

Then we need a framework with which to build our plan, then information to fill in all the gaps then something to inspire and sustain us when the going gets tough.

Today I remembered a snippet of a speech given by Nelson Mandela that was a quote from a book by Marianne Williamson. It was given at his inauguration speech as the President of South Africa. It goes something like this;

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others

As I walked along today replaying parts of this in my mind I realised that what truly stops us getting started is that we feel we don't deserve to have all the good things in life. For some reason we feel that we are unworthy but this is not true. We ALL have the same right to joy, love, contentment, wealth, happiness, satisfaction, accomplishment, health, and all the other good things that life offers.

I am here today to grant you permission to reach for, strive to achieve and attain all the bounty that life offers. By the power invested in me by The All Powerful Is that you have the right to pursue all that makes your heart feel fulfilled, to have all that you desire, to be all that you can be, to grow into the magnificent, inspiring, wonderful, loving human being that you are.

There, you now have permission. You can now figure out your why, then get your inspiration, build your framework, collect your information and create a truly magical life. All it takes now is for you to choose to accept that permission for you to be all that you can be, then pursue it with all you've got.

To get you started, send for my free e-book that outlines The 7 Big Questions to create your framework then start filling in the information and you'll be on your way to having a magical life. I'll be waiting for you to join me on the journey.

In the meantime have a wonderful Christmas and New Year. May it be more awesome than the year we just had.

Wayne Brown is a facilitator and promoter for life change. Contact him at

the7bigquestions@yahoo.com or www.the7bigquestions.com

or listen to his podcasts at www.the7bigquestions.podomatic.com

HAVE YOU EVER HAD A DAY LIKE THIS?

Every now and then I stop and think. Yes, I know, don't be shocked, I do do it occasionally. Only a few years ago I was ending a very tumultuous, toxic relationship, one that wasn't healthy or enjoyable for either one of us. I was working in a trade I didn't receive a lot of joy from with an employer who was more frustrating than anything, I had virtually no savings or investments to show for 25 years of working. I had very little if any social circle, I had a lot of stress and tension and the main emotions I could feel were frustration and anger. My hopes and dreams for the future were looking very unlikely indeed. Not a very healthy formulae for living.

Then one day, I had decided I had had enough. I ended the relationship, moved out of the house, and finally I had some peace and quiet to sort out what the hell I had done to my life and consider my options. I sat down and did a 'retrospective introspective'. This is where I look back on my life and really ask myself some hard questions. It took me about 18 months to devise some ideas and plans that were to develop into The 7 Big Questions, and another 12 months to implement them. Within 6 months my life had taken some amazing turns for the better.

Once I had clarity about who I was and what I wanted from my life, I could then plan and design a life that I truly wanted. I suddenly felt so much more freedom and lightness knowing that I finally had control of my life. I went from a small rental house in suburbia with little savings or social life to within a year, living on acreage, running a successful business with a gorgeous lady that I had met, changing to an employer that was more in alignment with where I was going in my life plan, saving more money than I had ever had, a social circle that supported and encouraged me, an online business that is now listened to around the world in a heap of countries and my future looking brighter than I could ever of hoped.

This is the question I have for you and is the title of this blog. Have you ever had a day where you wake up and in the middle of your day, you look around at your life and marvel at how different it is over such a small period of time? Do you ever think 'I am amazed that I could create all this?' It is truly fantastic.

All I did was apply The 7 Big Questions. Nothing more ground breaking than that. If you would like a free 37 page e-book that tells you a little about my journey, The 7 Big Questions and what they can do for you, send an e-mail to the7bigquestions@yahoo.com

I'm also writing an e-workbook that should be finished within the next few months. It will contain everything I used to turn my life around as well as many other things as well as a plan to help you implement it and get the most out of it. If you are interested in that when I am finished, send an e-mail and I'll put you on the waiting list. I am also going to create some audio books and webinars as well down the track. I'll keep you posted on them.

There is only one thing for you to do now. Decide if your life is all that it can be and if you could get more out of it? If it could be more and you would like more, make the decision to do something about it, because only you can. I look forward to joining you on your journey.

Wayne Brown is a facilitator and promoter for life change. Contact him at

the7bigquestions@yahoo.com or www.the7bigquestions.com

or listen to his podcasts at www.the7bigquestions.podomatic.com